Comments on: My Moby Dick http://radishly.wordpress.com/2007/12/10/my-moby-dick/ ~Sometimes I vomit right into my blog~ Sun, 15 Nov 2009 15:06:36 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: IML http://radishly.wordpress.com/2007/12/10/my-moby-dick/#comment-82 IML Fri, 14 Dec 2007 13:58:21 +0000 http://radishly.wordpress.com/2007/12/10/my-moby-dick/#comment-82 Hmmm...I should add that the change occurred in me, and she's learning not to continually try to do the same thing and expect different results. She stops herself now, and I have to walk away less and less. She'll always be who she is, but I no longer play my assigned role, and she's learning to accept that, and that makes all the difference. I hope that makes sense and gives you hope! Hmmm…I should add that the change occurred in me, and she’s learning not to continually try to do the same thing and expect different results. She stops herself now, and I have to walk away less and less. She’ll always be who she is, but I no longer play my assigned role, and she’s learning to accept that, and that makes all the difference. I hope that makes sense and gives you hope!

]]> By: IML http://radishly.wordpress.com/2007/12/10/my-moby-dick/#comment-81 IML Fri, 14 Dec 2007 13:53:55 +0000 http://radishly.wordpress.com/2007/12/10/my-moby-dick/#comment-81 I am here to tell you it gets better. Keep holding the line. There's a learning curve. It took me about 3 years to get somewhere with my mom, but I have. I still have to be firm. Always will. But eventually even the most stubborn of boundary transgressors can learn to behave. It's really a reversal of roles. You are the parent, and you have to be consistent. Exhausting, but you can forge a new, healthy relationship with your mother, and it's worth the effort. At least it's been worth the effort for me. And enjoy the gifts guilt-free. Nothing works better than her seeing that you're not feeling guilty. I am here to tell you it gets better. Keep holding the line. There’s a learning curve. It took me about 3 years to get somewhere with my mom, but I have. I still have to be firm. Always will. But eventually even the most stubborn of boundary transgressors can learn to behave. It’s really a reversal of roles. You are the parent, and you have to be consistent. Exhausting, but you can forge a new, healthy relationship with your mother, and it’s worth the effort. At least it’s been worth the effort for me. And enjoy the gifts guilt-free. Nothing works better than her seeing that you’re not feeling guilty.

]]> By: radishly http://radishly.wordpress.com/2007/12/10/my-moby-dick/#comment-75 radishly Tue, 11 Dec 2007 05:03:42 +0000 http://radishly.wordpress.com/2007/12/10/my-moby-dick/#comment-75 No, that didn't last very long. She hasn't gone in a really long time. She still does the church thing though; I'd thought that that was helping... No, that didn’t last very long. She hasn’t gone in a really long time. She still does the church thing though; I’d thought that that was helping…

]]> By: John http://radishly.wordpress.com/2007/12/10/my-moby-dick/#comment-74 John Tue, 11 Dec 2007 04:40:05 +0000 http://radishly.wordpress.com/2007/12/10/my-moby-dick/#comment-74 she's in therapy still, right? never been a huge fan, but maybe it'll help. too bad the therapist only gets one side, and that side probably airbrushes out facts like hanging up in a rage. she’s in therapy still, right? never been a huge fan, but maybe it’ll help.

too bad the therapist only gets one side, and that side probably airbrushes out facts like hanging up in a rage.

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